I am needing to recharge the ac and can't find the freaking port for the life of me!!!! I found the other port no problem. I am pretty auto ignorant, so please keep it as simple and descriptive as possible....thnks

Start at the compressor and trace the lines. The one with the small connector is low side for134a refrigerant. If you found one the other will be on the other line. They are not hidden but sometimes are hard to see.